I’m not looking for the socially acceptable version, the automatic response, or the “I’m good thanks, how are you?” that rolls off the tongue before we’ve even checked in with ourselves. Those well-worn responses might keep things polite and flowing, but I worry they’re quietly ruining our ability to communicate honestly, and therefore our […]
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Learning to advocate for yourself is something many of us are encouraged to do more of. We’re told it’s healthy to speak up about our needs, set boundaries and be honest about what we can realistically manage. In theory it sounds empowering. In reality, it can sometimes feel a little more complicated. Recently I found
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For many women, ADHD isn’t just about the brain. It’s experienced through the body – in energy levels, nervous system responses and everyday wellbeing. A growing body of clinical observation and research is starting to clarify why this might be true, especially when conditions like Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) and Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome
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Many women who discover their ADHD in midlife describe the same quiet, unsettling feeling. On paper they have achieved a great deal – careers, families, responsibilities managed for years – yet inside they sometimes feel like they have somehow slipped through the net and will eventually be “found out”. This experience is often described
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No one told me that a caesarean birth could change my body for life. I was told how the surgery would happen. I was told how long recovery might take. I was told when I could drive again, lift a kettle, or return to daily life. What I was not told was that years later,
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If you’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD, you may be feeling a surprising mix of emotions. Relief, because something finally makes sense. Grief, for the years spent struggling without answers. Validation, tinged with anger or sadness. Or perhaps numbness, uncertainty, or the quiet thought – what happens now? All these responses are normal. A
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This question often arrives with a mix of relief and doubt. Relief, because something has finally clicked and the struggles with focus, overwhelm, exhaustion or emotional intensity suddenly make sense. And doubt, because you’ve managed for this long, so surely it can’t be ADHD… can it? For many women, especially in midlife, wondering
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For many women, work has never just been about earning a living. It’s been about identity, safety, belonging, proving you’re capable and holding everything together. Being seen as reliable, intelligent and useful – even when it costs you more than anyone realises. If you’re autistic, ADHD or both (AuDHD), midlife can quietly unsettle all
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You’re in a conversation and someone says something that is plainly wrong. Not nuanced or debatable, just wrong. And instead of tilting your head, softening your tone, cushioning the truth so it lands gently, you say it. “That’s not correct.” No smile to soften it, no apology for saying the thing out loud or emotional
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The new autism research helping late-identified women make sense of a lifetime of masking For decades, autism was explained through one dominant idea: that autistic people were “mind-blind”. This theory suggested autistic individuals struggled to understand other people’s thoughts or emotions, shaping research, diagnosis, education and public perception for nearly forty years. Autism became
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