If someone asked me whether I could prepare a meal, I’d answer, “Yes.” And I’d be telling the truth. The problem is, it wouldn’t be the whole truth. I know how to cook. I understand the basics of nutrition. I can follow a recipe (although I have been known to misread the occasional step!), […]
Why capability isn’t the same as capacity when you live with ADHD or autism Read More »
Approximate reading time: 12–14 minutes “You’re too young.” If you’ve ever gone to your GP because something didn’t feel quite right, there’s a good chance you may have heard those words. Perhaps you left feeling confused, frustrated or even a little embarrassed for having raised the possibility of perimenopause in the first place. After
You’re too young for perimenopause – and other myths that are leaving women to suffer Read More »
I’ve never had an easy relationship with food. Looking back, I don’t think I’ve ever had an easy relationship with regulation either. I just didn’t know that’s what it was. For years, I believed I simply lacked willpower. I thought I should have been able to eat, drink and spend differently and somehow develop
ADHD, food and binge eating: making sense of a lifelong pattern Read More »
I often find myself thinking about the things people say without really meaning to cause harm. Not the deliberately cruel comments that most of us would recognise as unacceptable, but the throwaway remarks made in moments of frustration, impatience or humour. The comments that are quickly forgotten by the person who says them, whilst somehow
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A few weeks ago, I was walking through Winchester market on one of the busier days and found myself doing something that has become increasingly common over the last few years. As I approached the fish stall and the cheese stall, I instinctively pulled my jumper up over my nose and quickened my pace, eager
I often say that receiving my ADHD diagnosis at the age of 49, followed by my autism diagnosis two years later, didn’t change who I was. It simply gave me a different lens through which to understand the person I’d always been. People sometimes ask whether it was a relief to finally have an
Two and a half years after my autism diagnosis, I’m still joining the dots Read More »
I have been pondering something recently. Actually, if I’m honest, I’ve been pondering it for quite a while. The relationship between ADHD and addiction is something that comes up repeatedly in conversations within neurodivergent communities, yet it still feels like a topic wrapped in shame and misunderstanding. Many late-discovered ADHD women grew up with messages
ADHD and addiction in women: understanding the link without shame Read More »
Many late-discovered neurodivergent women describe difficulties identifying emotions, recognising their strengths, or knowing how they feel in the moment. Sometimes this is linked to alexithymia or delayed processing, although experiences vary from person to person. This article explores these experiences through my own reflections as a late-discovered autistic and ADHD woman. I was thinking
There was a time when I believed that a “good” mum cooked the evening meal every night. I don’t remember anybody ever actually saying that to me, but somewhere along the way I’d absorbed the message all the same. A proper meal. Home cooked. Served at the table. The family sitting together, talking about their
For many late diagnosed ADHD and autistic women, discovering neurodivergence in midlife is not a neat moment of clarity. It is the slow, ongoing process of re-examining decades of masking, burnout, people-pleasing and survival – and gently learning who you are underneath it all. People often talk about receiving a diagnosis or identifying as
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