Reflecting on how sobriety, menopause and understanding my neurodivergent brain helped me build a more authentic life I’ve been thinking recently about how strange life can be sometimes. If someone had told me ten years ago that choosing sobriety, navigating menopause and discovering that I am both ADHD and autistic would eventually lead me towards […]
How years of self-criticism can make it difficult to recognise what we’re doing well Since writing my previous article about discovering ADHD and autism during menopause, I’ve found myself reflecting on what came afterwards. Not the diagnoses themselves, but the process of beginning to see myself differently. Recently, I was asked a question that, on
How menopause became the beginning of understanding myself for the first time For much of my life, I thought I was simply struggling more than everyone else. I was the woman who held everything together on the outside whilst quietly battling chaos on the inside. I was raising children, working hard, supporting everyone around
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Hormones matter. ADHD matters too. Recently, an email from Dr Louise Newson landed in my inbox and stopped me in my tracks. In the email, she spoke about ADHD and hormones, sharing her concern that some women may be receiving ADHD diagnoses and being prescribed medication when changing hormone levels haven’t been properly considered
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Late diagnosis, societal expectations, and the uncomfortable question at the centre of the neurodiversity conversation We talk a lot about neurodivergence now: ADHD, autism, masking, burnout, sensory overload, executive dysfunction. And rightly so because awareness matters as does language and understanding ourselves. But lately, I’ve found myself circling a different question entirely: What even is
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Reflections on late-discovered ADHD and autism, motherhood, intergenerational trauma and healing within families. There’s something very strange about writing a book about your life. Not because of the writing itself, although that can be emotional enough, but because at some point the people who know you best begin reading parts of you that perhaps they’ve
There’s a sentence I hear often from women in midlife: “My ADHD diagnosis explained so much… but there are still pieces that don’t quite fit.” For many women, receiving an ADHD diagnosis can feel life-changing. Suddenly there is language for the overwhelm, procrastination, emotional intensity, burnout and exhaustion that may have been present for decades.
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If you’ve ever sat staring at a blank email, wondering how on earth to explain your ADHD at work without it turning into a “big thing”, you’re not alone. This is one of those conversations that can feel surprisingly loaded – because you care. About your work, your reputation, and how you’re perceived. Let’s
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I’m a post-menopause AuDHD woman and I am so bloody angry. My tolerance has dropped through the floor. Things that I used to be able to brush off now feel unbearable. I’m snapping more easily, holding onto frustration for longer, and feeling this constant simmering rage that I can’t seem to shift. I’m angry at my parents, my children and my husband. I’m angry at Donald Trump and about the state
Post-menopause, AuDHD and rage – what the hell is going on? Read More »
There’s a moment many women quietly recognise. You’re still doing all the things – work, home, life – but it suddenly feels harder. Focus slips, motivation disappears. Small, simple tasks feel disproportionately overwhelming. Your patience feels thinner, your brain fog heavier. And somewhere in the middle of all that, a thought appears: What is happening
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