Wellbeing

You’re too young for perimenopause – and other myths that are leaving women to suffer

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Approximate reading time: 12–14 minutes “You’re too young.”   If you’ve ever gone to your GP because something didn’t feel quite right, there’s a good chance you may have heard those words. Perhaps you left feeling confused, frustrated or even a little embarrassed for having raised the possibility of perimenopause in the first place. After […]

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When I stopped cooking dinner: ADHD, menopause and letting go of the pressure to Cook Every Evening

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There was a time when I believed that a “good” mum cooked the evening meal every night. I don’t remember anybody ever actually saying that to me, but somewhere along the way I’d absorbed the message all the same. A proper meal. Home cooked. Served at the table. The family sitting together, talking about their

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Post-menopause, AuDHD and rage – what the hell is going on? 

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I’m a post-menopause AuDHD woman and I am so bloody angry.  My tolerance has dropped through the floor. Things that I used to be able to brush off now feel unbearable. I’m snapping more easily, holding onto frustration for longer, and feeling this constant simmering rage that I can’t seem to shift. I’m angry at my parents, my children and my husband. I’m angry at Donald Trump and about the state

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Neurodivergent sleep and menopause: Why sleep feels so hard (and what actually helps)

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If getting to sleep – or waking up – feels like a battle, I want to start by saying this gently: it might not be a “you problem”. I see this so often with the women I work with, especially those who are neurodivergent. You try the routines, read the advice and you know what

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Why advocating for yourself can still feel hard with ADHD or autism

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Learning to advocate for yourself is something many of us are encouraged to do more of. We’re told it’s healthy to speak up about our needs, set boundaries and be honest about what we can realistically manage. In theory it sounds empowering. In reality, it can sometimes feel a little more complicated. Recently I found

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I’ve just been diagnosed with ADHD – what do I do now? A gentle next step for women

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If you’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD, you may be feeling a surprising mix of emotions. Relief, because something finally makes sense. Grief, for the years spent struggling without answers. Validation, tinged with anger or sadness. Or perhaps numbness, uncertainty, or the quiet thought – what happens now?   All these responses are normal. A

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Should I get assessed for ADHD in midlife? A gentle guide for women

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This question often arrives with a mix of relief and doubt. Relief, because something has finally clicked and the struggles with focus, overwhelm, exhaustion or emotional intensity suddenly make sense. And doubt, because you’ve managed for this long, so surely it can’t be ADHD… can it?     For many women, especially in midlife, wondering

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