For many women, work has never just been about earning a living. It’s been about identity, safety, belonging, proving you’re capable and holding everything together. Being seen as reliable, intelligent and useful – even when it costs you more than anyone realises. If you’re autistic, ADHD or both (AuDHD), midlife can quietly unsettle all […]
ADHD, autism and work in midlife: navigating identity and self-worth Read More »
I’ve written before about my own experience of friendships that have fallen away. It was a very personal piece – you can read it HERE if you’re interested. This time, though, I want to explore friendships and relationships more broadly, looking a little deeper at hormones, neurodivergence, and how, for many women in midlife, these
Friendships and relationships in midlife with ADHD or autism – what changes and why Read More »
If you’re autistic and/or ADHD and you’ve spent years collecting diagnoses that don’t seem connected – gut issues, dizziness, chronic pain, fatigue, inflammation – you’re not imagining patterns that aren’t there. For a long time, neurodivergence was framed almost entirely as a “brain thing”. Yet the nervous system isn’t just the brain. It includes
For many women, discovering the term AuDHD feels like someone has finally handed them a missing piece. Not a diagnosis they were searching for, necessarily, but a framework that explains why life has always felt intense, exhausting, contradictory, or strangely difficult to sustain – even when things looked fine from the outside. If you’re
AuDHD in women: why autism and ADHD are so often recognised after 40 Read More »
For many women with ADHD, midlife doesn’t feel like a gentle transition. It’s more like something quietly, then suddenly, stops working. Focus becomes harder to hold. Emotional regulation feels more fragile. Overwhelm arrives faster and lingers longer. The coping strategies that once kept life ticking over no longer seem reliable. If you’ve found yourself wondering
Hormones and ADHD: what changes during perimenopause and menopause? Read More »
For many neurodivergent women, pregnancy and early motherhood are remembered as intense, disorientating, and strangely lonely – even when they were deeply wanted experiences. Some women only recognise their neurodivergence years later, looking back and realising how much they were coping without language, understanding or support. Others enter pregnancy already aware they are autistic,
Neurodivergence and pregnancy: what to expect before, during and after Read More »
For many women in midlife, there’s a moment where things stop adding up. You lose words mid-sentence. You walk into rooms and forget why. Tasks that once felt manageable now feel impossibly heavy. Your brain seems noisy, scattered, slow or overloaded – sometimes all at once. And the question quietly forms: What is
Brain fog, overwhelm and focus struggles in midlife – is it ADHD, menopause, or both? Read More »
This is a question many women carry quietly, often with a layer of shame attached. Why am I struggling more now?Why do things that I used to cope with feel unbearable?Have I lost my resilience? If you’re autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, or beginning to wonder whether you might be, menopause can feel like the point
Does menopause make neurodivergence worse? Read More »
Overwhelm is one of the most common reasons women seek support in midlife – and one of the most misunderstood. It’s often described as stress, anxiety, burnout, or “not coping very well”. But for many women, especially those who are neurodivergent or hormonally shifting, overwhelm isn’t a personal failing. It’s a nervous system doing its
Managing overwhelm when your hormones and nervous system collide Read More »
A new year always invites fresh possibilities yet, for many neurodivergent women, it also brings pressure! Pressure to suddenly become organised, consistent, motivated and energised… every day… without fail… forever. If only. The truth is, if you’re neurodivergent, your motivation fluctuates as does your energy and your hormones. And your ability to execute a
